Boundaries

Creating boundaries is an essential skill for maintaining healthy relationships, protecting your well-being, and preserving your energy. Here's a practical breakdown of how to do it effectively:

1. Understand Your Needs

• Reflect on your values, energy levels, emotional triggers, and time limitations.

• Ask yourself: What drains me? What recharges me? What do I need to feel safe and respected?

2. Identify Areas Needing Boundaries

Common areas include:

• Time – overcommitting or lack of personal time

• Emotional energy – dealing with others’ problems constantly

• Physical space – needing personal space

• Digital access – constant messaging or social media exposure

• Work-life balance – boundaries with colleagues or after-hours expectations

3. Communicate Clearly and Respectfully

Use assertive communication, not aggressive or passive language:

• Start with “I” statements:“I feel overwhelmed when I get messages after work hours. I need to disconnect in the evenings.”

• Be specific and calm. Don’t over-explain or apologize for your needs.

4. Enforce Your Boundaries

• Stick to what you say. Consistency builds respect.

• Prepare for pushback – especially if others benefited from your lack of boundaries.

• Use consequences if necessary:“If you continue to speak to me that way, I’ll have to leave the conversation.”

5. Check In With Yourself

• Reassess regularly. Boundaries can evolve as your life changes.

• Ensure your boundaries are helping, not isolating you.

6. Respect Others’ Boundaries

• Healthy boundaries go both ways. Practice empathy and communication.